New Normal: Blame The Black Woman (Or Women Period)?

For the past three years, I've looked throughout social media and watched as our black women get bashed more than I ever have.

I'm someone who' always defending my fellow black men when we get blamed for everything. I've seen black men get rairoaded in the hands of some black women. However, we turned these events into a reason to bash black women all the time. We even blame them when they are the victims of situations. Why have we come full circle.

For one, Black women have never been a protected class even though they're the strongest among all races. Imagine being the one to hold the family down while working, going to school while raising children. Not an exact science but Black Women have always been known to sacrifice their own lives for the sake of their children. What makes them the strongest race on earth? Let's not forget, they're African-American and Women which are already two strikes against them. With that comes wage disparages and pay gaps. Black Women have to prove themselves in the workplace, as parents and even when meeting men.

Many times, they must do it as single parents. Despite all against them, I've seen Black women do it all with very little. Now don't get me wrong. I've seen Black Men do it as well. I used to be a single father for a minute myself. Now, while we as Black men have hurdles to climb, the black woman have a lot more.

There were situations where women meet whom they believe are good men. The woman would introduce the to family, friends and even their children. Then, the man does an about face and murders them with possibly the family. I have seen comments on social media blaming the woman for "meeting the wrong men" or how they met the men. We as men and women have no difference in how we interact socially whether it's online or in person. So now, many similar stories I've seen with child support and women getting murdered, raped, or suffered other atrocities get blamed for their situation.

I havent seen so much victim blaming in my life. Now we don't have the same energy when the victim is close. We all have wives, mothers, sisters, cousins, mates, and friends. What if someone came to you and told you one of them deserved what they got. I'm sure it wouldn't go well.

It's Black women who decided our elections. It's Black women who are always there for us when we need them. In this last election cycle, Black women stood with other marginalized groups in solidarity until they were betrayed. Black women always takes a hit but unlike other groups, they don't play victim, they get right back up. From Harriet Tubman to Rosa Parks to Tina Turner to Vice President Kamala Harris, Black women have to be at the forefront for us even when we can't be at the forefront for ourselves.

Lately, I've seen female victims get blamed for their own plight. If a woman gets abused or murdered at the hands of a spouse or significant other, the first thing that comes out of most folks' mouths is "why did they choose the wrong mate?" Many others will drag the woman for staying so long without realizing how long it takes to leave an abusive relationship. We now live in a microwave society where we believe everything is just so simple and quick. Some women have mixed feelings about getting help. Some fear retaliation. Others fear embarassment from their peers. Either way, Black Women deserve our help and not our criticism

When women are sexually assaulted, many berate them for their behavior or the way they dress. Many berate them for how long it takes for them to report the crime. Again, reporting can leave the judgement.

We need to do more to protect our black women because many of us wouldn't be alive without one. Many of us wouldn't even function without one. Protect our sistas at all costs.